Sunday, July 19, 2009

How Can you help your Attorney help you with your Divorce?

One of the most important things that I like for clients to do is to write down what they would like to accomplish in this divorce and their disagreements with their spouse. It helps to focus the client on what is important to them because sometimes the attorney might have have a completely different focus on what you want. It also helps to determine your expections with the court system.

As much as letting a client know their legal options, I like to help clients transition through this painful process to hopefully get their life back to a normal place or better. Being able to give a client some peace of mind helps determine if the attorney and client are a good fit.

Going through a divorce can be like jumping out of a plane. Your attorney is similar to a parachute to help with the landing. If both you your attorney know what you want and expect, it will help to determine your legal rights and whether all of your complaints can be addressed through court.


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  2. Natalie M. HayesJune 25, 2010 at 5:23 PM

    I like your metaphor on divorce, comparing it with jumping out a plane and the lawyer being the parachute. And yes, indeed, expectation setting before the legal process starts is very important. In fact, expectation setting is essential when it comes to all things in life -- especially when there are other people involved. It really helps to share what you expect to get from the process and to know from your lawyer whether your expectations are too high or too low, and whether you deserve something less or something more from your expectations.